Future loneliness

2019. 8. 30. Friday. Sunny.

World are full of lonely people. There are many lonely men. So are women. Simply a lonely man and a lonely girl meet up and be happy together. This sounds logical and reasonable but we all know that this is the hardest thing for lifetime. Everyone talks about how much they want to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. If world is full of lonely boys and girls what makes it difficult to find each other?

We get afraid of being judged by others. We don’t know how strangers think of me unless we talk to them. Even though we squeeze out courage and talk to them sometimes it is difficult to find out their mind. If we get rejections, needles to speak, we’d be hurt. Also, we can’t find out whom to talk. Not everyone is single and lonely. We need to find another lonely person but usually when we go out we pretend that we are doing okay, not lonely at all. Plus, even thought we luckily succeed to talk to the other lonely person, the person is usually defensive to strangers so it might be difficult to carry on. So it seems that meeting lonely people each other on streets is difficult no matter how many lonely people are on the streets. So most people choose staying lonely. No one needs to be hurt by this. Obviously it is not happiness though.

I think if we can communicate with others without speaking out, this world would be less lonely. I also thought of exposing mind, no secrets thing but we all have some secrets that we don’t want to show others. It can be shames of our family or ourselves or bad memory.

So what’s good about communicating without voice. First when we talk to someone on the street, it attracts surrounded people. When we get rejected, it is not the only one person who gives me humiliation. All surrounded people will see and think ‘oh pity, oh silly or else’. But if we can see a stranger on a street and have a private talk, no need to be afraid of others. It will be only two individuals on crowded street. We can be more honest in private. Of course there might be side effects too.

Then how about we can write our brief profile on our brain that everyone or allowed people can access and see who I am and what I want. People wouldn’t see everyone’s profile. One day you are walking on a street. You find a person you like. Then you can access to the person’s profile and see who the person is. The person might have written that ‘I want a relationship.’ or ‘I am not looking for a relationship.’ This will increase our chances to be with someone, decrease our chances to be humiliated.